Manifesting what you want in life isn’t just wishful thinking—it’s an art. And while mainstream advice might make it seem like all you need is a Pinterest vision board and a whole lot of hope, the reality is that creating your dream life requires intention, strategy, and action.
For midlife women, manifesting takes on a whole new dimension. We’re not looking to simply daydream; we’re in the business of creating lives that are richer, freer, and unapologetically ours. But, we also have some thinking habits and toxic beliefs we might have to shake. (We did get exposed to the “Math Class is Tough” Barbie after all!) If you’re ready to turn aspirations into reality, buckle up—this guide is your invitation to build a manifesting toolkit that actually works.
What is a Manifesting Toolkit?
Think of your manifesting toolkit as the ultimate life hack—a curated set of practices, mindset shifts, and actionable steps to help you align your desires with your reality. It's not about magic or delulu thinking. It's about empowering yourself to take control of where you want your life to go next.
For midlife women, it's also about reclaiming our power. After decades of pouring ourselves into caregiving, careers, and keeping the peace, manifesting is our chance to unapologetically focus on us—our dreams, goals, and happiness. And yes, you can do it! Even if you’ve spent a lifetime putting yourself last.
Below are 22 actionable ways to build a toolkit that sets you up to create the life you want.
The Foundations of Manifesting
1. Journaling for Clarity
Grab a journal (we love a fancy one but just use one you love) and put pen to paper. Write about your ideal life in vivid detail. What does it look like? Feel like? Smell like? Clarity is everything when it comes to manifesting, and journaling is your go-to for getting clear.
2. Daily Affirmations
Not just empty statements, affirmations help reset your brain's narrative. Look in the mirror and say, "I am worthy of good things" or "My life is moving toward abundance." It might feel silly at first, but, trust us, repetition works wonders. (For 111 Affirmations you can use, click here.)
3. Define Your Life Purpose
Who are you? Really? This may sound dramatic, but understanding your core desires (not what society expects from you) is step one to living authentically. Need help? Ask yourself, When do I feel most alive? Use our FREE manifesting guide to help you.
4. Build a Vision Board
Yes, the Pinterest cliches are true! Visualizing your goals sparks your brain to create neural pathways that steadily align your actions with your dreams. Paste physical images onto a board in your space or create a digital version. (Also in the Manifesting Guide.)
5. Practice Gratitude
Manifesting doesn’t work when you're obsessing over lack. Every morning, list three things you’re grateful for. It shifts your energy and keeps you vibrating on the right frequency, which is essential.
Manifesting Methods You Can’t Skip
6. Reframe Negative Beliefs
Your brain loves a good story—even if it’s one that is not helpful. The good news is, it loves a new and more positive story too! Reframing is the art of flipping “I’m too old to change careers” into “My experience makes me uniquely qualified for my ideal job.”
7. Breathwork for Alignment
Transform your emotional state in seconds with mindful breathing. The 4-7-8 method (inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 7, exhale for 8) is perfect for calming the mind and recalibrating focus. (When you take a long exhale, your body signals to the brain that you are safe
8. Use Tactile Reminders
Carry a small token that represents your goal—a crystal for confidence, a bracelet inscribed with a mantra—it keeps your intention alive wherever you go. (Read more about Midlife Crystals here!)
9. Say It Out Loud
Speak your vision into existence! Stand in your kitchen and declare it. talk to yourself in your car. Words have power—don't underestimate them.
10. Somatic Practices
As the saying goes, our issues are in our tissues. Move your body to clear stagnant energy. Dance, stretch, or do yoga. Midlife manifesting is intimate with the body—it’s about feeling energized and aligned.
11. Set Strong Boundaries
You cannot manifest when exhausted by other people's needs. Say no unapologetically to things that will drain your energy—it’s time to protect your energy fiercely.
12. Create Morning and Evening Rituals
Habits are the holy grail of manifesting. Start and end your day with intentional actions, whether that’s journaling, meditating, or holding a steaming cup of tea and envisioning your best life.
13. Tap Into Play
Adults forget how to play, but joy is a high-frequency emotion that accelerates manifestation. Pick up that sketchbook, go to a batting cage, or join a dance class simply for fun.
14. Get Inspired by a Mentor
Whether it’s reading our book, The Selfish Season, or following someone whose life resonates with your goals, fuel your vision with wisdom from others who’ve been there.
Keep the Momentum Going
15. Audit Your Circle
Your vibe is contagious, so surround yourself with uplifting people who root for your success. Feeling drained? Perhaps it’s time to phase out those energy vampires.
16. Declutter Your Life
A cluttered space = a cluttered mind. Clear your environments (both physical and mental) to make space for the life you’re manifesting. (for more on decluttering, check out this post.)
17. Trust (Even When it Feels Impossible)
Manifestation isn’t linear. Your timeline won’t always make sense, but trust the process anyway. Your dream is aligning behind the scenes.
18. Celebrate Small Wins
Did someone compliment your energy? Land a small gig? These are signs! Acknowledge them—it tells the universe you're paying attention.
19. Invest in Yourself
Quit wasting money on cheap fixes. Invest in the tools or education that will get you closer to your goal—the payoff is worth it.
20. Confront Your Fears
Fear is often what blocks us from the life embodied in our vision. Face those “what ifs” head-on, acknowledging they're just stories your brain spins to keep you safe. Your journal is a GREAT place to write down your fears and then let them go.
21. Detox Your Social Media
Social media comparison ruins focus. Follow accounts that spark inspiration, not jealousy. Use the unfollow button to curate a feed that aligns with your vision.
22. Repeat, Repeat, Repeat
Manifesting is a lifestyle. Keep showing up for the process with patience and perseverance—it’s not a one-and-done deal.
Manifesting Starts Here
Reclaiming midlife as your time for radical self-focus starts with a simple choice: Saying yes to yourself. Whether it's through journaling, breathwork, or creating an unapologetic vision for your future, midlife is the perfect season for personal transformation.
