Today marks National Drink Wine Day and we do not think that’s random. It’s the February doldrums. 2025 is off to a bumpy start for many, and this is the time of year where one can start to feel defeated. It’s tempting to take to one’s bed with a bottle (and we don’t even drink!) The good news? You can hit the reset button and breathe new energy into your days, starting now. From small shifts to deeper inner work, here are nine actionable ways to shake up your energy and get unstuck:
1. Reframe Your Story
We know, we know, we always say this. But we sound like a broken record because we love you and it’s TRUE. Your brain is a storyteller—and not always a reliable one. If it’s telling you the same tired, “Why bother?” narratives, it’s time to change the script. Start by taking stock of the beliefs you’ve been repeating about yourself. Are you stuck because you believe midlife is about “settling down” or that "your best years are behind you"?
Guess what? That’s BS.
You have the power to rewrite your story. Grab a journal and reframe those limiting thoughts. Instead of “This year is going to be like the last ones,” try, “This is MY time to start fresh and do something that excites me.” Your words hold power, so choose ones that are energizing and powerful. It really is that simple.
2. Elevate Your Day-to-Day
Stuck vibes live in tired routines. Shake things up by adding an unexpected spark to your daily life. It could be as simple as:
Wearing a killer outfit (just because it's a Tuesday).
Starting your morning with a dance party in your kitchen (yes, in your pajamas).
Learning something new, like a language or how to make French pastries.
When you challenge yourself and step out of the mundane, you remind yourself that life is full of possibilities.
3. Dive Into Personal Growth
Feeling stuck often means it’s time to do some serious inner work. This doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Start with a powerful self-help book that resonates with where you’re at. We’re big fans of Gabby Bernstein’s work on internal family systems she outlines in her latest book, Self Help—it’s like therapy you can do from your couch.
Check out the Netflix documentary Stutz. Therapy condensed into a single viewing? Yes, please. And if therapy hasn’t clicked for you yet, don’t give up. There is a therapist out there who will feel like magic. Keep looking until you find them (talk to your doctor or use Psychology Today’s localized guide.)
4. Audit Your Energy
Midlife is prime time to filter out what doesn’t serve you, including environments, friendships, and habits. Ask yourself:
Does your physical space inspire you or drain you? Start decluttering.
Are your friends lifting you up, or are they toxic energy vampires? Set boundaries.
Are you spending your time on things that energize you or leave you feeling blah? Do a time audit and prioritize what lights you up.
Midlife is too short to tolerate anything (or anyone) that drags you down. When the February blahs hit, you must be more discerning than ever.
5. Rediscover Your Purpose
When’s the last time you asked yourself who you really are? Not who society says you should be. Not who your family thinks you are. Who YOU are at your core. If that question makes you want to crawl under the nearest blanket, it’s time to explore your purpose.
Think about what sets your soul on fire. Is it creating art? Helping others? Growing a garden? Your purpose doesn’t have to be world-changing—it just has to feel meaningful to you. And once you find it, don’t be afraid to manifest what you truly want.
Pro tip: Vision boarding is not just for funsies. It works. (For more on Vision Boards, click here.)
6. Invest in Yourself
Can we be real for a sec? You can’t pour from an empty cup. Investing in yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Whether it’s taking a course, hiring a life coach (a legit one, not some random guy on Facebook claiming wisdom), or splurging on that jacket that will pull your wardrobe together and make you feel awesome, you are worth it. Repeat after us: This is an investment, not a treat.
7. Find Joy in Style & Beauty
When you look good, you feel good. Period. We’re not talking about dressing up for others—we’re talking about showing up for YOU. Wear clothes that make you feel confident. Experiment with a new lipstick shade. And if you want to book that medspa appointment for a little Botox action, go for it. No shame here. Do whatever makes you feel like your most radiant self.
8. Cultivate Habits That Stick
Small changes build big results. Want to kick a funk to the curb? Focus on creating habits that align with the life you want. Whether it’s journaling every morning, meditating, or going on afternoon walks, consistency is key.
Oh, and boundaries? They’re your new BFF. Learn to say “no” without guilt. Protect your time and energy like treasure.
9. Join a Supportive Community
You are absolutely not alone on this midlife rollercoaster. Find your people—whether it’s through a local book club, a Facebook group for women in midlife, or connecting with like-minded souls IRL. Surround yourself with women who inspire and uplift you. It’s a game-changer.
Community is where growth happens. When you feel seen and supported, you’ll be surprised how quickly your vibe starts to rise. That’s why we want to build a free online commnunity for midlife women wanting more (not a pyramid scheme, we promise!)
The Shift Starts With You
Feeling stuck is a part of life, but staying there? That’s optional. By reframing your story, elevating your routine, and investing in yourself, you can shift your energy and create a midlife that feels exciting and joyful. Remember, this isn’t about going back to who you were—it’s about becoming your best, most authentic self.
If you’re ready to take the first step, grab a copy of our book, The Selfish Season. It’s a candid, laugh-out-loud guide to thriving in midlife that’ll feel like you are getting a tough love pep talk from a friend.
Midlife is YOUR time. Go reclaim it.
We love you!
Xx
